Just Between Us Girrls … and Guys Too!

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This blog is about a lot of things–-cancer, life after cancer, family, depression, and at some point, fashion. You might be wondering how fashion fits into the picture. Well, I’m passionate about fashion — and I’m a cancer survivor. So, that’s it.  Sometimes my posts might be about how to look fabulous after 50, (almost 55-yikes!) and sometimes they might be about how to conceal those unsightly surgical drains when you have to get dressed up!  But mostly, it’s about life with, and, after cancer.

I am sharing with you my breast cancer journey in hopes that it will help you or someone else, or someone close to you who is being/has been touched by cancer. This blog goes a step further to talk about a serious subject that is too often overlooked — post-treatment and what it means for the rest of your life. What’s the process for getting back to your old self? (Spoiler alert: You’ll never be your old self again.)  So then, how do you learn to accept your new self?  I’m not sure I have the answer, but as God is my witness I’m going to figure it out, maybe with your help, and I’m going to share what I learn with all of you because it’s much needed.  

Guys, you can get breast cancer too.  But that’s not why you’re included in this blog.  You’re included because it’s important to understand that breast cancer is never over.  And just maybe you’ll find something in here that will help you relate to or better understand what your significant other (or mother, sister, daughter, friend) is going through.  Who knows, maybe I’ll get my husband to post?  Nah, well, maybe.

Lastly, if you want to know what led me to start this blog, please read an article I came across in Refinery 29, an online magazine, that is titled “The Secret Suckiness of Life After Breast Cancer,” by Judith Basya. For the first time, I read something that affirmed my feelings; that told me I wasn’t ungrateful or crazy (er), as my husband would say. (Every time I say something makes me crazy, he adds the “er”.)  I sent the article to my husband and a few other friends. It said everything I wanted to say but couldn’t.

So I decided to start a blog, this blog, to talk about life after breast cancer. A blog that helps to empower us rather than make us feel worse. One that validates our feelings. I know there are many of us out there who feel this way and worry that something is seriously wrong. Let me assure you — what you’re going through is completely normal and there is light at the end of the tunnel.  You just don’t know it yet because most people don’t talk about it.  Well, I will.


P.S. Left photo credit Heather Philbin Photography www.philbinphoto.com

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“Let Your Purpose be Greater Than Your Fear”–Charlene Wheeless, 2018

*Watch my first blog post (which is a video) and it will all start to make sense.


  1. You are an absolutely amazing women and have accepted the diagnosis with such grace and bravery! As a fellow survivor I share your acceptance and agree it is one of the hardest things we have to do.Blessings!

    1. Thank you Rita. You have been such a blessing! And that knuckleheaded daughter of yours that I love so much!

  2. After reading your blog I loved how you openly shared your agony and triumph. It must be wonderful to be called a survivor.

    1. It is, but I must admit, until my 7 years of medication are over, I don’t quite feel the triumph. I’m working on it though.

  3. I absolutely love you Charlene! You’re authentic as they come.

    This blog is one everyone—woman And man—should read and share…


  4. As the husband of a breast cancer survivor, your words of advice are spot on. This helpful information also indicates how things have changed since my wife was treated more than 25 years ago. Blessings to you and for you AND your family.

  5. Char,
    You will and have inspire many. The journey of healing , as I have learned and continue to learn, is ongoing with the mind , body and soul. Our ego or identity will trick is into believing that we are our disease. Selfove is a daily discipline and the best medicine to take. Thank you for being vulnerable and share your journey with us. You are love and loved!
    I love you!
    Big HUG!

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